Aparigraha – Not Coveting the Unhad Physical Form

I’ve posted before about aparigraha – the yama (ethical restraint) of non-coveting. This particular yama seems to speak to me a lot. Maybe that’s because I am more covety than most people? I’m not sure. But, in any case, I was thinking about it today and how it connects to other issues that I’ve talked about recently, including body emotions and pain.

It’s easy to understand how coveting is related to the objects in the world that we have or want. We all experience times of wanting the “stuff” that other people have, or that we don’t/can’t have. Heck, I just posted the other day about several things I’m wanting. But, it’s not just the stuff that we covet.

We also covet experiences that we might not have had, but we know others have. So, when a Facebook friend asked who had traveled out of the country and where, I found myself looking at my response and some of the others and thinking, “I want to travel to ____ and _______!”

And, we even may covet the bodies that others live. Having had some issues (understatement) with body image and eating, and now having chronic medical conditions, I know that there are times when I look at other people and wish that I could have a body more like what I think their body is like. It might be for a belly that is flatter, a chest that is less flat, hands that don’t shake, or joints that move easily, but in all of those cases, I’m wishing for what I don’t have, and not particularly appreciating what I do have.  I’m losing the experience I’m living in my desire to be experiencing another.  As I told the students in my yoga for chronic pain class last week, even if in pain or exhausted or not cooperating, the body is a miracle.  It’s a wonder and it deserves to be appreciated for that.

I don’t always find myself coveting the unhad body, but it does happen, and I have to work to fight it off sometimes and to keep my focus on the body/experience that I’m in, instead of the many that I’m not. It’s a bit of an effort, but one that is worth it. So, I’ll keep trying!

A few blogs that I read that have addressed the issue of aparigraha (as related to the body) in one way or another:

Stop Chasing Skinny

Curvy Yoga

Living in the (k)Now

Running A Life

Flowtation Devices

Enjoy and love the physical form you have today!


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10 Responses to Aparigraha – Not Coveting the Unhad Physical Form

  1. Thank you for this wonderful post, especially the quote about the body being a miracle. I don’t know how that chronic pain series turned out, but I really think you have found your niche.

    (P.S. Could you please add an “m” [com] at the end of my URL?) 🙂

  2. Maria simone says:

    The body is an amazing miracle – so true! Great post and thanks for the shout out 🙂

  3. Thais says:

    Thanks for the mention Lo!! So important to let sh*t go. holding on to wants and wants only creates discontent – and life is too short for that!! xx

  4. Great post. I’ve literally had the exact same body since I was 15. Just in the past year (I’m 32 now) things are…changing. It’s easy to get super critical about that, but I need to remember to treat mayself with loving kindness, too! I’m now focusing on how amazingly well my body works and how well it serves me, not just the things I want to change! Thanks for the important reminder, and for the hysterical photo!!

  5. Lorin says:

    Many thanks for reading and commenting, Lisa, Teeg, and Maria!

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  7. This is a great insight for National Yoga Month (and fabulous photo, btw. That’s some coveting alright. teehee)

    I’ve practice Yoga thin, fat, old, young, pregnant, postpartum, and not. I sometimes wish for the body I used to have or that Gumby dancer body inhabiting the mat in front of me. But, my path is to love the body I’m in without squashing the ability to appreciate those other bodies. I used to think aparigraha meant to suppress the feelings that arose in me when the 20 year old former ballerina walked into class. Now, I finally get that it means being aware and remaining unmoved by them. Thank you for giving another access to this insight with your words.

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