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So What? Getting your Santosa On in Asana Practice

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As is my habit on Friday morning, today I attended a 9:30 practice.  As we moved into one of our warming poses, which involved a lunge with a bent back leg and knee on the ground, I felt my thigh turn into a massive ball of cramp.  Since I have rheumatoid arthritis, and pain tends to be bilateral, I wasn’t shocked to feel the same on the second side.  And then later I noticed that my ankles were  also cramping and hurting.

My first response to all of this was to think, “Oh crap!”  I was immediately out of the starting gate with a critique of my body and my practice.  Whoosh!  Self-criticism!  Zip! Shame! Wheee! Annoyance!  But then, an interesting thing happened.  A little voice in my head spoke up and said, “so what?”   And I actually stopped to consider it.  So what if I couldn’t stay in a lunge very long.  So what if straightening my leg into a arm balance wasn’t going to happen?  So what if I had to take a child’s pose?  So. What.  It just doesn’t matter.  No one cares.  The poses are of the practice, but they are not the practice.  And, as I reflected on this a little, my retroactive hearing suddenly connected it with what my instructor, Micki, had said just moments before about cultivating contentment (santosa, or santosha, or santohsa) on and off the mat. Be content with where you are.  Try and then be ok with what the outcome is.  Mmmhmm.

On this path effort never goes to waste, and there is no failure. Even a little effort toward spiritual awareness will protect you from the greatest fear.
~ The Bhagavad Gita

This is a great things for me to remember in the rest of my life as well.  This week, I’ve been upset and thinking (about a few different things), “I try so hard and still _______” – fill in the blank with what doesn’t happen that I think should or what does happen that I think shouldn’t.  There too, I need to embrace my inner snarky pre-teen and say “So what?”  It’s ok.  It is what it is.  Try and then be content with what happens.  Let go of the struggle.

Santosa, babies, santosa! 

L

Being Content with Vegan Food – Vegan MoFo 27

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As I mentioned yesterday, I’m working on santosa this week.  Santosa, or contentment, might not seem at all related to veganism, but I think it is.  The ability to be content with what you have, rather than yearning for what you do not have, is what makes a vegan diet not only possible but pleasing.  Unfortunately, some of the tools that we have to help us be vegan can actually get in the way of this contentment.

Vegan versions of meat items are a prime example.  I love my homemade seitan loaf (aka “tofurkey”).  I really do.  A sandwich with it is a marvelous thing.  But part of what makes me so happy with it is that I don’t expect it to taste like turkey.  I’m not yearning for the taste and texture of turkey when I take a bite.  I like tofurkey on its own.  If I really wanted turkey, I would be disappointed with the tofurkey.  This is true for most veganized versions of animal products, even basic things like soy milk.  I really like the taste of soy milk now.  I am pretty sure that I would select it over milk even if I weren’t vegan.  But, at first this was not the case.  At first, I wanted it to BE milk, and I came away from every experience unhappy that it wasn’t.  I started with the vanilla and chocolate versions, because everyone told me that they would taste like sweet flavored milk.  They did  not.  Eventually, to reduce the sugar in my diet, I started buying unsweetened unflavored soy milk, thinking that I couldn’t like it less.  I found that I actually liked it more, because I had no expectation of what it should be and could just taste what it was.

As I said yesterday, using prepared replacement foods is a good way to go at first, because it makes the process seem more approachable.  But, as one moves forward in veganism over time, cultivating contentment in this way of eating means developing happiness with what is available, instead of trying to recreate always what is not.  Even when “faux” _____ items are selected, there is a difference between choosing them because we like the taste of that product and choosing them because we are really yearning for the animal derived item.

Are there things that you use in your vegan eating that get in the way of your contentment as a vegan?

Cultivating Santosa – A State of Contentment in the State of New Jersey

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One of the niyamas (observances) of yoga philosophy is santosa, or contentment.  It’s a niyama that I have been working on since I started my practice, but it’s one for which I have much work remaining.  Santosa is complex because of all of the ways that it is related to our understandings and beliefs about life.  We can cultivate contentment in our relationships, our jobs, our financial states, our physical beings, our surroundings, and so on.  When things seem “good,” it is easy to be content.  But when life isn’t working out the way you hope or think it should be, it is harder to be content.

In my own experience, I’ve had success over the last while in developing more contentment in my relationships.  I’m certainly not always content with them, but I don’t get as upset as I once did.  I rarely get really angry or depressed about a relationship (or the lack of one), and I have found that this has made my life and interactions with others seem much better, even when the patterns of behavior in the relationship don’t change much.

An area that I have mixed success with is in contentment with my physical self.  Sometimes it’s all good.  Even having a chronic auto-immune disease, and associated pain, doesn’t seem so bad at such times, as I can embrace the fact that it has taken me to places that I would not be otherwise.  Losing my hair in clumps at a young age created an opportunity for me to dissociate from the necessity of time and energy spent on hairstyles, and I love the idea of all the time I have not spent on that.  Other times, it’s harder.  I’ve been experiencing some extra bother recently from the RA pain, and there are days when I have to work hard not to feel angry about it.  And, as my friends and spouse can tell you, I’ve been a bit whiny about the weight I’ve gained recently (regardless of whether it’s maybe related to an increasing physical activity level).

I suppose I’m not on my own in this mixed success.  After all, would anyone have ever needed to write this down as an observance if it wasn’t sort of difficult to manage?  Notice that there isn’t an observance that reminds us to eat sweets or take naps.

Well, I feel a little bit like this post should be longer, but I’m going to just be content with what it is and say,

namaste,

L